Sometimes people who exhibit manipulative behavior don’t even realize they are doing so, where the behavior has somehow been subconsciously ingrained into their routine. Cases like these don’t realize the effects of their behavior until sometimes long after damage is inflicted. Oddly and ironically, this exhibition of behavior is a veiled form of self-protection, and even a skewed form of attaining emotional nourishment.
Experiencing neglect, the subject may have developed an instinct to fulfill a natural emotional need. This need not being satisfied, routes are explored through unorthodox, unhealthy channels to fulfill that need. Over time, the behavior becomes permanent, and very difficult to un-learn. In some cases, where physical abuse is involved, the subject may develop an unrealized dual self, where an inconspicuous side of their personality emerges to either shield themselves from the pain, or mimic the behavior of their abuser. Manipulation is useful for mimicking types, using the soft and naïve side of their personality to seize a potential victim into their clutches. The victims of these manipulations, in turn, can experience the brunt of varying acts of behavior, ranging from being imposed upon through mild to severe intimidation, to being coaxed into situations where they eventually become abused in much the same way the debilitant was abused themselves.
People who suffer from possessing manipulative behavior need understanding; they are not at fault, though the mess left behind such behaviors may lead their counterparts to deem otherwise. Though common sense would suggest that people who were raised in perfectly normal households may grow to develop manipulative attributes, common sense also tells us that how people treat their children has a large impact upon the people they become.
Education is key in child raising, as much for the parent as is for the child, maybe even more so for the parent. If you’ve managed to read up to this point, and you have young children, do yourself a favor and take a small moment of time to learn even the slightest amount of information you use to enrich and enhance the psychological health of your child today, the future depends on it.